If you’ve ever talked to a recent bride, you’ve likely heard one phrase over and over: “It all went by so fast — and it was so stressful.” As a seasoned St. Louis wedding photographer, I’ve seen this firsthand. But the good news? It doesn’t have to be that way.

If you’re a current bride-to-be starting your planning journey or you're just a few months out from your big day, let’s break down why wedding days get so stressful — and what you can do to actually enjoy every minute.

1. Trying to Do Everything Yourself

One of the biggest mistakes I see is brides trying to juggle planning, logistics, and emotions all on their own. Your wedding day isn’t the time to be the point person for deliveries or directing guests to the ceremony site.

Fix it: Delegate! Hire a day-of coordinator (even if you DIY-ed most of the planning) or lean on trusted friends and family. Having someone else answer the last-minute questions will free you up to be present. Need a recommendation of planners I love to work with? I have a list. 

2. Not Building in Buffer Time

Let’s be honest — something will run late. Whether it’s hair and makeup or a groomsman forgetting his tie, delays happen.

Fix it: Pad your schedule! As a seasoned St. Louis wedding photographer, I always build in extra time between major events like getting ready, first looks, and the ceremony. That way, if we run late, you're still on track — and stress-free.

3. Overcomplicating the Timeline

You don’t need 47 Pinterest-inspired moments crammed into one day. Too much detail can lead to decision fatigue and overwhelm.

Fix it: Simplify. Choose a few meaningful traditions and let the rest go. Focus on the experience, not just the aesthetics. Trust me — your future self will thank you.

4. Forgetting to Eat (or Hydrate!)

Sounds silly, but it happens all the time. You’re excited, nervous, and running on adrenaline — and suddenly, it's 3 p.m. and you haven’t had a bite.

Fix it: Assign a bridesmaid to be your snack-and-water hero. Protein bars, fruit, and plenty of water will keep you energized (and help avoid that fainting feeling at the altar!).

5. Not Having the Right Photographer

Photos are one of the only things that last beyond the wedding day — and your photographer can either add to the chaos or calm it.

Fix it: Hire me! Haha. My calming presence and experience on how to keep the day flowing. I am organized, communicative, and flexible. I prevent stressful moments into joyful memories.

6. Putting Pressure on Perfection

Last but not least, the expectation that everything must go perfectly is a recipe for anxiety. Real talk: something will go “wrong,” but it won’t ruin your day unless you let it.

Fix it: Focus on what matters — marrying your person. The messy, unplanned moments are often the ones you’ll treasure most.

Final Thoughts for Every Bride Planning Your Wedding Day

If you’re planning a wedding day in or around St. Louis and want it to feel joyful, effortless, and actually fun, let’s talk., I’m here to do more than snap pretty pictures — I’m your timeline guide, calm-in-the-chaos, and number one hype woman.

Here’s to less stress and more celebration. ✨

big hugs! Lyndsey